Out with the old. In with the new.

So last night after experiencing the awful new braided belt, Wil pulls out his old favorite the Screamer.  This got me wondering.  See I have a friend who each year before Christmas lets her children choose one favorite toy to keep then packs up all the other toys and gives them to charity to make room for the new toys.

Shouldn't we as the one on the receiving end of implements be able to do the same?  Let our HOH's choose one of their favorite implements to keep then give the others away to "charity".  We could offer to donate them to couples just starting out in their relationships who don't have the wonderful collection of "toys".

That way even if we get awful new implements for Christmas the awful old implements no longer have to be feared.  I personally think this is a wonderful idea, LOL.  Unfortunately I know which implement would always be kept, The Screamer!  So it probably isn't going to save my bottom much.

So to put a question out there to s/o's and HOH's alike, what is your most favorite or most feared implement.  S/o's which one would make your entire New Year if it just plain disappeared?  And HOH's which implement would you never part with?

I know which mine would be:

        The Screamer

Christmas Gifts........gotta love this time of year!

So I got Wil some great Christmas gifts this year and found just the bags and box to put them in.  If you look closely at the bag you will see a handle sticking out of the bag...."Oh no, a bath brush!!!"
Think again.

You see a certain HOH broke his loved and my hated bath brush on a certain someone's bottom right before Christmas.  Ok, I was really in trouble and he was really making a point when "SNAP" and the dreaded bath brush was no longer!  Such a shame! So being the good wife that I am I had to replace it for him right???? Well of course I did, just not with exactly what he was expecting.

Inside the bag was a lotion applicator.  It has the same handle as bath brushes but at the end a soft pillowy lotion application sponge is attached.  It was perfect!  I never laughed so hard as when I found this.  Well maybe when he pulled it out of the bag thinking he was going to find a new bath brush.  And even better when you get spanked with this it makes the loudest thumping noise yet you don't feel a thing!!!!

The Earth Theraputics Lotion Applicator
HIGHLY RECOMMENDED!!! LOL!!

   


















Okay so to prove that I am not a complete brat I will show you what was waiting for Wil the next morning when we finished opening presents.  You see unfortunately Earth Theraputics also makes real bath brushes so he got two of them along with a Perry Ellis braided leather belt (very stiff and VERY ouchy!)
See Below:                                        
Earth Therapeutics Bath Brush
Earth Therapeutics Acrylic Bath
Perry Ellis Braided Leather Belt
NOT RECOMMENDED!!! LOL!!!
(except the one in the middle!!!!)















                                                                      


And, unfortunately the stress of the holidays and my mouth made sure that by the end of Christmas weekend I had felt all of the above implements and I can attest that not one of them should be used for anything but body cleansing!  I don't even know which is worse the acrylic one, very stingy plus with the Ergo soft grip handle my HOH seems to beable to swat twice as hard, or the wooden bath brush, it is so big it covers a very large area of the bottom and burns like the dickens!  As for the belt....What in the heck was I thinking!!! It is not a soft leather at all like Wil's other belt, this one really packs a whallop and with no give you feel every inch of it.

Ladies, why do we do this to ourselves??? (wide evil grin)

So now we have an ever increasing number of implements and a bag that lets Wil know exactly where my mind is at....hmm, once again what was I thinking???   To make matters worse our Wedding Anniversary is right around the corner, but this time I will be smart.  Looks like a nice implement box will fill the anniversary gift idea quite fine.                             

                                                                                                 

Merry Christmas to All......................

I just wanted to take the time to wish all my readers, followers and lurkers a very Merry Christmas and a wonderful New Year.

It is at this time of the year that we all need to stop and remember what we are thankful for.  I am thankful for my family, friends, my newest little blessing, my granddaughter born on the 6th of this month, and mostly for the love that I share with my husband and how special that love has become with this thing we do. 

I hope you all can sit back for a few minutes, take some time from the hustle and bustle of this time of year and just let those close to you know how much you truly appreciate and love them.

I hope you all have a Blessed Christmas.

Janet

The Men I Love...

So finally a new post!!! Sorry it has been so long.  But things here have been a bit crazy and sometimes life gets in the way of just about everything.  But I owe all my followers a post so here's a quick one that just seemed to happen out of the blue.

So last night after a long time due to health issues we finally had some alone time and made love.  It was wonderful.  Funny, before our DD relationship we probably made love 3-4 times a year.  Now if we aren't able to find special time just for us and to be together at least once a week we both miss it so much!! There are so many advantages to this thing we do!

So after a special reconnection time I laid in Wil's arms and held his hand.  It was just quiet reflection time, time to enjoy being together in the most perfect of circumstances.  Which for me anytime we can share our love for one another is perfect.  So I was quietly contemplating how much Wil means to me and how much I love him when another thought pops into my head.  Glancing once again at the hand that I am holding, the gentle hand that has just held me during the most intimate of times, the hand that caressed my face and made me feel so loved and I think to myself how funny it is that this hand that is so gentle at times can be so harsh and unyeilding at other times.  That the same hand that holds me now in the gentlest of times is also the hand that has no problem turning me over his knee and applying an anything but gentle reminder that he is the leader in this relationship and that I will answer to him for all that I do. 

It is like there are two sides to the man I love.  The gentle protecting husband and the husband that will remind me that I messed up when needed.  Then I started thinking, if I could only choose one of these men which one would I choose.  The gentle loving man or the man who takes charge of me, my faults and my actions.  I honestly can't answer that question.  Luckily I don't have to, I am blessed enough to have both of these men in my life all wrapped up into one incredible package.  How lucky is that???

So if you had to choose the gentle loving man in your life or the man who takes care of you in all those ways that touch you so deeply yet at times painfully, which would you choose?

I'll Be Back............

Sorry to all my followers that I haven't been around the last few days.  I had another episode and ended back in the hospital.  I am taking a break for a few days while I regain my strength.  I do have a couple of good topics I'd like to share as soon as I am feeling stronger.  So since I am from Cali-forn-ia, I thought the picture was appropriate.   Don't give up on me I'll be back!!!
Janet

PS on happier news our grandaughter was born Sunday night.  8lbs 3 oz and very healthy.  Thank you Lord.

When saying I'm sorry has to be enough.....

Okay so I feel like the puppy in the picture.  I didn't mean to do it.....well I guess I did but I didn't think that my HOH would be so upset.  I'm not even sure if he really is but his email this morning sounded a little more like a lecture then a "Good morning I love you".

I broke the no eating out rule and at a time that no one would even think I could.  I can't drive, I don't have my debit card and cash doesn't exist in this house so how could I possible blow it????  Well that's what friends are for right? 

I was so tired of just laying on the couch, I was lonely, there wasn't a darn thing to eat here because I hadn't shopped since getting out of the hospital.   I swear all I remember eating the last week is turkey and hospital food!  So I called my best friend and in a very pathetic voice said, "Will you go to BK and get me some lunch?"  Of course what best friend could deny a sick buddy food.  So she did just that.  Oh I was so proud of myself.  I had managed to get BK even without being allowed to drive or go out by my doctors.  So of course what do I do last night.  Well more like what did my evil voice do last night.  It admitted to Wil that I had eaten BK for lunch and was quite proud of how even under the most extreme circumstances I was talented enough to figure out a way to eat out.  (I KNOW STUPID!!!)

"Oh you are so lucky that you just got out of the hospital! Because you'd be in BIG trouble if you were well right now." Wil stated sounding quite disappointed in my actions.  Suddenly I didn't feel so proud of myself. I was in trouble and there wasn't much that I could do except apologize.  There would be no clearing the air with a spanking.  So now I have to deal with the guilt of not following my HOH's wishes and know that there is no way to put it behind us.   I was told to write 50 sentences that I would not use my friends to help me be bad.  Probably should have been more like 500 sentences but at least he was able to assign some sort of punishment to my actions.  So for now saying "sorry" is all I can offer him, that and my sentences.  I can't wait until all these health problems are behind us and we can continue on with our lives.

Topping from the Bottom

I have been doing a lot of reading recently on blogs written by people just starting out in their DD journey.  It is an incredible time in their lives.  I remember it well.  I am also lucky enough to still be enjoying the semi-newness of a DD relationship.  I think we have reached that point where we are comfortable in our roles and that overwhelming need for me to feel his authority often has deminished.  I still need it, I still long for it and I always will but I am also now comfortable with his part in this relationship and I know he and the spankings aren't going anywhere.

It is a good place to be, it is comfortable and it took a long time to get there.  For all the women out there just begining a DD, LDD, TTWD, CDD relationship there is one important thing that I have learned that is don't top from the bottom.  And that is one of the hardest things to do.  When starting out in this type of relationship a woman craves spankings like a child craves candy.  It makes us feel loved, protected, cared for and it brings about more feelings then I can even begin to list.  It becomes almost addictive in a way and there were times for me at least that I almost quit our DD relationship because the cravings for a spanking were taking over my life.  It was all I wanted.  I needed them at any cost.  It didn't matter what my HOH wanted.  I NEEDED TO BE SPANKED, it was like a new drug that I couldn't get enough of and at times the need almost drove me crazy.

So one day I put a question out onto a forum that I belonged to.  I don't even think it was a question it was probably more like a complaint.  I didn't think my HOH was spanking enough, I tested, I pushed, I tried everything in my power to get that need for a spanking met and it didn't matter to me how it effected my HOH.  I never thought about the fact that he was still new at this and finding his way in this new life also.  The need for spankings blinded me to the fact that I was still the one in control because I wanted spankings done my way.

I was lucky.  An HOH from the forum I belonged to answered my question.  Did I like what he said?  NO!  Was it what I needed to hear at the time?  OH YEAH!!!
This is what he said:
"You are not respecting your husband as your HOH if the spankings have to be your way and when you want them.  It is not your place to say how he should be doing his job.  It is hard enough for an HOH who is learning to find the right balance of when to be firm and when to let things go.  He is dealing with his own questions at this time and his own feelings about fitting into this new role.  He may be having difficulty with how to spank, he may be struggling with feelings of not wanting to hurt the woman he loves, and your demanding him to be the perfect spanker and disciplinarian right from the start is not only unfair it is disrespectful to the man you have agreed to be submissive to. 
You need to take a step back and let your HOH be the leader.  Do not belittle him for not doing things exactly the way you want him to.  Do not question his decisions this will only lead to him questioning the relationship as a whole.  Relax, take a deep breath and allow your HOH to discover his own way in the relationship or you may push him away from the things you want the most.  Accept what he is willing to give, when he is willing to give it and thank him often for his efforts.  Only then will he be allowed to become the HOH he needs to be."

That was such a hard lesson to learn.  At times it still is.  I still find myself wishing he would do things this way or that way but now before I complain to him or anyone about it I stop and think to myself.  "A year ago you only dreamed of a relationship like this.  Now you have it.  It may not be exactly how you want it but at least it is happening.  Don't push him.  He is the leader and his decisions need to be respected." 

Spankings even when not exactly how we want them are still a lot more then we were getting before so step back and be thankful for what you are getting.  Don't push so hard that you push away something as special as a DD relationship all together because you may not get it back.  I promise those crazy spanking cravings will level out and you will find yourself eventually with the "Did I really ask for this?" thought in your mind as your HOH finds his place.  So sit back, relax and enjoy the ride.  I guarantee it is more then worth it in the long run.